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sophia_sol) wrote2015-09-23 06:10 pm
sophia_sol) wrote2015-09-23 06:10 pm
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gender identity stuff!
You know that thing where when you don't have a thing it's really hard to realize that you don't have it? I struggled a lot with this when first coming to terms with being asexual, and then with being aromantic. GUESS WHAT, I have something new to add to the list. Turns out I'm agender too!
I'm not exactly unfamiliar with the idea of gender identities outside the binary, and yet it still took me a ridiculous number of years to realize that I'm not actually cis. Like, I just assumed that the things I felt on the subject of gender were within the usual spectrum of what it's like to identify with the gender you were assigned at birth? Haha, not so much! Somehow I forgot to take into account that NOT HAVING A GENDER was an option, idek how. Because now it feels really obvious that that's me.
I'm still in the process of figuring out what this means for me. You can maybe expect more thoughts about gender at some later date, or maybe not. We'll find out!
At any rate you can keep using the pronouns she/her/hers for me for the time being at least, because none of the available pronoun options really sit comfortably with me so I might as well just stick with what's familiar.
I'm not exactly unfamiliar with the idea of gender identities outside the binary, and yet it still took me a ridiculous number of years to realize that I'm not actually cis. Like, I just assumed that the things I felt on the subject of gender were within the usual spectrum of what it's like to identify with the gender you were assigned at birth? Haha, not so much! Somehow I forgot to take into account that NOT HAVING A GENDER was an option, idek how. Because now it feels really obvious that that's me.
I'm still in the process of figuring out what this means for me. You can maybe expect more thoughts about gender at some later date, or maybe not. We'll find out!
At any rate you can keep using the pronouns she/her/hers for me for the time being at least, because none of the available pronoun options really sit comfortably with me so I might as well just stick with what's familiar.