Yeah, that's one of the things it's about! Kurchak talks a bunch about how, because she doesn't "seem" autistic to people looking in on the outside because her autism isn't "bad" enough, that they think it doesn't really count, but a) it counts, and b) the masking behaviours one engages in to succeed at not seeming autistic are in fact an enormous drain.

I really liked her discussion of that last point, actually, and how much more functional and happy she is when she isn't spending all of her energy making neurotypical people more comfortable and trying to fit in, but also how even after you learn that lesson it's hard to stop.