Okay! Um, sorry, I'm having trouble finding a way to phrase this without sounding like I'm interrogating you or something, which, totally not what I'm doing, I'm just genuinely trying to figure stuff out.

But so I guess what I'm asking is, when you are sexually attracted to a person, you do not experience this as, mm, finding yourself having a strong desire to have sex with them (or kiss them, or whatever) when you look at them or think of them or are in their presence, and you also do not experience this as involving feelings of arousal when you look at them/think of them/are in their presence?