:) I am not feeling interrogated (though now I am picturing Inspector Clouseau asking your question and am a little entertained).
when you are sexually attracted to a person, you do not experience this as, mm, finding yourself having a strong desire to have sex with them (or kiss them, or whatever) when you look at them or think of them or are in their presence Not that often, no. I tend not to look at someone and think Kissing! (Or whatever!) Us! unless I'm already thinking Kissing! (Or whatever!) I would like some of that!; I don't tend to look at people and think that unless I've already got a more general desire. The way that desire feels can be pretty similar to (using non-sexual examples) I would kind of like a hug now. or IF I DO NOT GO FOR A BRISK WALK I AM GOING TO JUMP OUT OF MY SKIN - so there's a range in that.
you also do not experience this as involving feelings of arousal when you look at them/think of them/are in their presence? I mostly fail to receive messages that my body sends me. Unless arousal hits me like a punch to the gut I probably will not notice. (I forget meals sometimes, too.)
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when you are sexually attracted to a person, you do not experience this as, mm, finding yourself having a strong desire to have sex with them (or kiss them, or whatever) when you look at them or think of them or are in their presence
Not that often, no. I tend not to look at someone and think Kissing! (Or whatever!) Us! unless I'm already thinking Kissing! (Or whatever!) I would like some of that!; I don't tend to look at people and think that unless I've already got a more general desire. The way that desire feels can be pretty similar to (using non-sexual examples) I would kind of like a hug now. or IF I DO NOT GO FOR A BRISK WALK I AM GOING TO JUMP OUT OF MY SKIN - so there's a range in that.
you also do not experience this as involving feelings of arousal when you look at them/think of them/are in their presence?
I mostly fail to receive messages that my body sends me. Unless arousal hits me like a punch to the gut I probably will not notice. (I forget meals sometimes, too.)