A question for you.

[sophia_sol]

So there is a fic I am making vague stabs at trying to write. It is not going very well. This is in part because I lack some crucial information! Namely, what is it like to experience sexual attraction?

And so I turn to you for help! Are you a person who experiences sexual attraction? I would like to hear from you! What does sexual attraction feel like for you (physically? mentally? emotionally?)? When do you experience it? How often do you experience it? Do you experience it every time you see a person you would categorize as "hot" or just people you are interested in, or some third option? Do you enjoy the experience? Do you ever wish it would just go away? Is there anything else that I'm not thinking to ask because I don't know enough to ask it?

Basically I just would love anything you could tell me about what sexual attraction is like for you. And it would be wonderful to get responses from multiple people, so I can try to extrapolate outwards from multiple data points to get a fuller picture of what it is like! I am happy with long or short answers, with or without TMI, and you can of course comment anonymously if you wish.

(Also, while I'm at it, just for my own interest, would you be able to explain what it is that is enjoyable/appealing about kissing? I'm just so curious!)

Comments

[melannen]

I don't know, but I can tell you that I have been writing so much more fic since I decided not to worry about that stuff and just write the world I experience. (Oddly nobody has yet said my 'ship fic is unrealistic or OOC as a result.)

[sophia_sol]

Oh god, I know, that would totally be my strategy these days.* Except this fic is for the "woke up sexual" prompt from the asexuality fanworks meme because SUCH AN AWESOME PROMPT. Which means I need to know what it would be like to be sexual!

*for my Yuletide fic this year I was like, crap! I need to stick in some sexual tension or something! And then I was like, wait, no, I totally don't. So I mostly skipped it.

[calvinahobbes]

Ahem, butting in to SQUEEEEE \o/

[sophia_sol]

:D

Here's hoping I get useful information out of responses to this post, because otherwise the fic ain't going to go anywhere!

[calvinahobbes]

I'll pimp it at my journal. Hopefully some sexual person will take pity on us :oP

[sophia_sol]

Ooh, thank you! Here's hoping!

There is one person, china_shop, who is in the process of answering stuff on the LJ side of this post, which is wonderful of her. But so far she's only gotten to the kissing stuff.

And of course it is important to have multiple perspectives on this stuff so as to best understand it!