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sophia_sol) wrote2011-05-12 04:45 pm
sophia_sol) wrote2011-05-12 04:45 pm
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A question for you.
So there is a fic I am making vague stabs at trying to write. It is not going very well. This is in part because I lack some crucial information! Namely, what is it like to experience sexual attraction?
And so I turn to you for help! Are you a person who experiences sexual attraction? I would like to hear from you! What does sexual attraction feel like for you (physically? mentally? emotionally?)? When do you experience it? How often do you experience it? Do you experience it every time you see a person you would categorize as "hot" or just people you are interested in, or some third option? Do you enjoy the experience? Do you ever wish it would just go away? Is there anything else that I'm not thinking to ask because I don't know enough to ask it?
Basically I just would love anything you could tell me about what sexual attraction is like for you. And it would be wonderful to get responses from multiple people, so I can try to extrapolate outwards from multiple data points to get a fuller picture of what it is like! I am happy with long or short answers, with or without TMI, and you can of course comment anonymously if you wish.
(Also, while I'm at it, just for my own interest, would you be able to explain what it is that is enjoyable/appealing about kissing? I'm just so curious!)
And so I turn to you for help! Are you a person who experiences sexual attraction? I would like to hear from you! What does sexual attraction feel like for you (physically? mentally? emotionally?)? When do you experience it? How often do you experience it? Do you experience it every time you see a person you would categorize as "hot" or just people you are interested in, or some third option? Do you enjoy the experience? Do you ever wish it would just go away? Is there anything else that I'm not thinking to ask because I don't know enough to ask it?
Basically I just would love anything you could tell me about what sexual attraction is like for you. And it would be wonderful to get responses from multiple people, so I can try to extrapolate outwards from multiple data points to get a fuller picture of what it is like! I am happy with long or short answers, with or without TMI, and you can of course comment anonymously if you wish.
(Also, while I'm at it, just for my own interest, would you be able to explain what it is that is enjoyable/appealing about kissing? I'm just so curious!)
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But so I guess what I'm asking is, when you are sexually attracted to a person, you do not experience this as, mm, finding yourself having a strong desire to have sex with them (or kiss them, or whatever) when you look at them or think of them or are in their presence, and you also do not experience this as involving feelings of arousal when you look at them/think of them/are in their presence?
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when you are sexually attracted to a person, you do not experience this as, mm, finding yourself having a strong desire to have sex with them (or kiss them, or whatever) when you look at them or think of them or are in their presence
Not that often, no. I tend not to look at someone and think Kissing! (Or whatever!) Us! unless I'm already thinking Kissing! (Or whatever!) I would like some of that!; I don't tend to look at people and think that unless I've already got a more general desire. The way that desire feels can be pretty similar to (using non-sexual examples) I would kind of like a hug now. or IF I DO NOT GO FOR A BRISK WALK I AM GOING TO JUMP OUT OF MY SKIN - so there's a range in that.
you also do not experience this as involving feelings of arousal when you look at them/think of them/are in their presence?
I mostly fail to receive messages that my body sends me. Unless arousal hits me like a punch to the gut I probably will not notice. (I forget meals sometimes, too.)