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sophia_sol) wrote2011-05-12 04:45 pm
sophia_sol) wrote2011-05-12 04:45 pm
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A question for you.
So there is a fic I am making vague stabs at trying to write. It is not going very well. This is in part because I lack some crucial information! Namely, what is it like to experience sexual attraction?
And so I turn to you for help! Are you a person who experiences sexual attraction? I would like to hear from you! What does sexual attraction feel like for you (physically? mentally? emotionally?)? When do you experience it? How often do you experience it? Do you experience it every time you see a person you would categorize as "hot" or just people you are interested in, or some third option? Do you enjoy the experience? Do you ever wish it would just go away? Is there anything else that I'm not thinking to ask because I don't know enough to ask it?
Basically I just would love anything you could tell me about what sexual attraction is like for you. And it would be wonderful to get responses from multiple people, so I can try to extrapolate outwards from multiple data points to get a fuller picture of what it is like! I am happy with long or short answers, with or without TMI, and you can of course comment anonymously if you wish.
(Also, while I'm at it, just for my own interest, would you be able to explain what it is that is enjoyable/appealing about kissing? I'm just so curious!)
And so I turn to you for help! Are you a person who experiences sexual attraction? I would like to hear from you! What does sexual attraction feel like for you (physically? mentally? emotionally?)? When do you experience it? How often do you experience it? Do you experience it every time you see a person you would categorize as "hot" or just people you are interested in, or some third option? Do you enjoy the experience? Do you ever wish it would just go away? Is there anything else that I'm not thinking to ask because I don't know enough to ask it?
Basically I just would love anything you could tell me about what sexual attraction is like for you. And it would be wonderful to get responses from multiple people, so I can try to extrapolate outwards from multiple data points to get a fuller picture of what it is like! I am happy with long or short answers, with or without TMI, and you can of course comment anonymously if you wish.
(Also, while I'm at it, just for my own interest, would you be able to explain what it is that is enjoyable/appealing about kissing? I'm just so curious!)
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What is it about kissing (for the first time) that makes all of you go OMG? I mean, I think I get the emotion behind it, but what is it about the physical act that's so OMG?
And yay, thanks so much, I will look forward to your thoughts on the attraction thing! <3
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It's a chemical reaction, I guess, so (as I recall, and ftr, it's been over a decade since I kissed someone for the first time) a little like being a little drunk, some head rush, and your breathing speeds up, which can make you a little light-headed, and there's a rush of warmth and (sometimes) arousal, which is alluring and exhilarating (hence the rollercoaster analogy) and feels good. Plus you're entering someone's personal space, face to face, often someone you really really like and want to like you. Hmmm, maybe it's akin to the warmth of being admired by someone you admire, multiplied by lots? With some fizzy-exciting chemicals thrown in?
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(hmmm, now I'm really wanting to write about Vulcan finger-kissing....)
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Well, humans have most of their nerve endings in their hands, mouths and genitals, so I guess that's the main reason, and since we'll put our hands pretty much anywhere (*g*), mouths and genitals are generally considered more private, and therefore more intimate. (Also there are theories about oral fixations dating back to childhood and breastfeeding, but I don't have strong opinions on those one way or the other.) Generally speaking, sexual people are wired to enjoy (and get turned on from) kissing. [Insert usual disclaimer wrt generalisations; there are apparently some cultures who don't kiss.]
Does that help?
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(Still thinking about the attraction thing. Must beta a fic first.)
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(awesome. Have fun with the betaing!)
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