A question for you.

[sophia_sol]

So there is a fic I am making vague stabs at trying to write. It is not going very well. This is in part because I lack some crucial information! Namely, what is it like to experience sexual attraction?

And so I turn to you for help! Are you a person who experiences sexual attraction? I would like to hear from you! What does sexual attraction feel like for you (physically? mentally? emotionally?)? When do you experience it? How often do you experience it? Do you experience it every time you see a person you would categorize as "hot" or just people you are interested in, or some third option? Do you enjoy the experience? Do you ever wish it would just go away? Is there anything else that I'm not thinking to ask because I don't know enough to ask it?

Basically I just would love anything you could tell me about what sexual attraction is like for you. And it would be wonderful to get responses from multiple people, so I can try to extrapolate outwards from multiple data points to get a fuller picture of what it is like! I am happy with long or short answers, with or without TMI, and you can of course comment anonymously if you wish.

(Also, while I'm at it, just for my own interest, would you be able to explain what it is that is enjoyable/appealing about kissing? I'm just so curious!)

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[sineala]

What was it like, to suddenly realize you weren't asexual after all? Did it disconcert you? Frighten you? Relieve you? Make you happy? Other things?

Um... all of the above? Possibly the fact that it was me figuring out that I was also a lesbian and had a massive crush on my best friend in the exact same realization kind of complicated things, so I am not sure I can sort out which feelings belong to which piece. (The lesbian thing, I was like, "Hey, wow, that makes so much of my bizarre past behavior make sense now," because apparently I managed to flirt obliviously and come out to people obliviously and then repress it. No, really. This kind of repression takes talent, I guess. *facepalm* So there it made me pretty happy to finally have something make sense about myself.)

The actual sexual attraction thing was honestly kind of, yeah, I'd say frightening at first, because it was, like, here was this ENTIRE REALM OF EMOTION that previously had not existed (like, suddenly my fantasies had me in them, WTF self) and it basically wanted to take over my brain and I didn't know how to handle it or deal with it or even really interpret it (other than OMG WANT WANT WANT) and it was just hitting me all at once. I mean, sure, the actual feeling of attraction is very nice, but it's kind of freaky if you're not used to feeling it. Or so I found.

I am very bad at describing emotion, so feel free to prod me more and I can try to explain more, if you want.

I would totally be interested in seeing the fic that comes out of this. :)

[sophia_sol]

Huh! Thank you! Um, I'm pretty sure it's late at night enough at the moment that I'm incapable of coming up with useful ways to prod for more explanation, so I'll come back when I've had more sleep.

I hope that there WILL be a fic that actually results from all this... XD